Back, G. (1985). Are you still-my-mother? Warner Books.

Summary of stories by parents of gay men and lesbians. Excellent reference for parents and counselors working with young gays, lesbians, and their parents.

Borhek, M. (1983). Coming out to parents. Pilgrim Press.

Excellent resource for gay men and lesbians struggling with issues of self-disclosure and of acceptance by parents. Helpful to counselors working with parents and young gays and lesbians.

Bosche, S. (1981). Jenny lives with Eric and Martin. Gay Men's Press.

Photo book illustrating young Jenny's life with her father, Eric, and his lover, Martin. All grades.

Bozett, F. W., & Sussman, M. B. (Eds.). (in press). Homosexuality and family relations. New York: Haworth Press.

This book explores the effects of homosexuality on families. This volume examines the multiple varieties of family forms in which gay men and lesbians live and explores the countless aspects of parenthood as experienced by gay men and lesbians.

Cramer, D. (1986). Gay parents and their children: A review of research and practical implications. Journal of Counseling and Development, 64, 504-507.

Useful as a starting point on the issue of children with gay parents. Examines legal/custody issues, parent-child relationship issues, and resources for further help. Good bibliography. For counselors with students who may have a gay/leshian parent.

*Cramer, D. W., & Roach, A. J. (1989). Coming out to mom and dad: A study of gay males and their relationships with their parents. Journal of Homosexuality, 15(3/4), 79-91.

Fairchild, B., & Haward, N. (1979). Now that you know: What every parent should know about homosexuality. New York: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich.

Written by the mother of a gay man and the mother of a lesbian, these two authors discuss common issues and questions parents typically have, in a pre-AIDS world, and offers parents support, understanding, information, and helpful, caring advice. This volume is also helpful for people who are planning to come out to their families.

Griffin, C. W., Wirth, M. J., & Wirth, A. G. (1986). Beyond acceptance: Parents of lesbians and ways talk about their experiences. Prentice Hall.

Offers emotional support and accurately researched answers to the questions and myths surrounding homosexuality.

MacPike, L. (Ed.). (1989). There's something I've been meaning to tell you. Naiad.

This is a book to help gay and lesbian PARENTS to come out to their children. Consists of personal stories of parents and their positive, as well as negative, aspects. For parents.

Pogrebin, L. C. (1981). Growing us free: Raising your child in the 80's. McGraw-Hill.

Chapter 15: "Homosexuality, Hysteria, and Children: How Not to Be a Homophobic Parent."

Rafkin, L. (Ed.). (1987). Different daughters: A book by mothers of lesbians. Cleis Press.

Twenty-four mothers tell of their experiences in coming to terms with their daughters' lesbian identity. For parents.

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